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October 06 2017

acutelesbian:

fat-thin-skinny:

acutelesbian:

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.
Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

this fucks me up every single time

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

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zireza:

🍂 A u t u m n : A New Beginning 🍂

“Steam rising underneath a canopy of whispering, changing aspens; starlight in the clear, dark night, and wondrous beauty in every direction. If only all could feel this way, to be so captured and enthralled with autumn.”

October 05 2017

skellydun:

i love learning and discovering new things but boy do i hate doing it crammed in a class with twenty people with the threat of randomly being called on and put on the spot while some girl is crunching on chips at 9 am. 

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gryffon:

first time fucking around with watercolors in a meaningful way. here’s a lion from the boston public library!

biowareproblems:

Me choosing what to remove from my inventory when I’m carrying too much:

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bandana–banana:

click/drag for a spooky ghost(trick) surprise!

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siriusly-superwholocked-mcu:

dragginage:

please please please teach your children to cook while they still live under your roof. even the most elementary things can’t be overlooked. because i just had to show my 24 year old boyfriend how to use a potato peeler and now i need to lay down for an hour

My parents: “You’re 19, why don’t you know how to [insert basic cooking skill here]?”
Me: “You?? Never taught me???”

junkrat-the-junker-rat:

squigglydigglydoo:

chradi:

halloweenja:

*main character becomes a villain* oh my GOD… oh MY GOd do that again

*main character becomes a villain against their own will* oh my GOD… oh MY GOOOODDDDDDDDD

*villain gets a redemption arc and becomes a main character *

*main character sacrifices themselves to knowingly become a villain to save someone else*

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ruinedchildhood:

Keke Palmer reacts to Titanic

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yamino:

vampireapologist:

republicansareahategroup:

scifinut:

missanthropicprinciple:

mcdyke:

lesbian-lizards:

jimmyfury:

iskariotrising:

PEOPLE ARE SO CONCERNED ABOUT THIS DOGS MASCULINITY

HES A DOG

no you don’t understand. People freak the fuck out if you don’t enforce human gender roles on dogs. They get fucking belligerent. I work in a pet store and the number of times people have gotten LIVID with me for not just automatically assuming their dog not only required but personally wanted the most stringent enforcement of human gender norms is mindblowing.

People demand dog shampoos that smell “masculine” because “He’s a boy he doesn’t want to smell like flowers” even though he’s a dog and if he had his way he would smell like duck poop. And those shampoos exist! That’s the worst part! There’s enough demand for dog shampoo that smells like Axe body spray that they exist and they sell well.

Or the seemingly nice old lady that shouted “PINK! OBVIOUSLY! SHE’S GIRL SHE HATES OTHER COLORS!” at me when i asked what color harness she wanted for her lapdog. Even though her dog can’t actually see the color pink and does not now and will not ever give a single flying dog fart what color her harness is.

Even our pets have to deal with our gender socialization bullshit.

I work in a pet store. Can confirm. If I don’t know the sex of the dog, and say, I pick up a blue lead to show the customer it’s different uses, I’ll get “well she’s a girl, so” and I’m like? Um? I’m just showing you it’s functions, there’s like 20 different colours here you can choose from?

And my manager wants us to separate boys coats/accessories and girl coats/accessories for accessibility for the customers……. like…….?

??????? They’re dogs.

This. Is. BULLSHIT.

Also, when I worked at a grooming salon, one groomer would bring in her family’s dogs. Poms, the lot of them. They all got bows. Even the boy. He was a goddamn beautiful dog.

Customers got mad. About a boy dog wearing bows. A boy dog THAT WAS NOT THEIR DOG wearing bows. Let that sink in.

Actually just like a week ago someone got testy with me because I put my female chihuahua in a blue polo shirt and they were like “she’s a girl she looks like a boy in that” and I was just like… She’s a dog.

I groomed dogs for five years and yeah. Bows on female dogs, bandanas on males. And if you only had bandanas, it was pink on the females and blue on the males.

Once a customer requested a pink bandana on her male dog, and another customer actually made a snide remark. I was like ?? ? ? ???? ? ?

I put a teal collar and leash on my golden, because she has a gorgeous red coat and I think the colors go great together!

But this upsets a lot of people at the dogpark who insist on calling Rosie a “he” even when I’ve told them she’s a girl. People have actually told me I should give her pink accessories to be “less confusing”. And like… I’m sorry but pink…?? With red hair?? What kind of fashion travesty do you think she is, the Little fuckin’ Mermaid?

October 04 2017

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endless-puppies:

Ive heard the new Pokémon is popular!

tahthetrickster:

the part of adulthood that nobody prepared me for was how some nights you’re like “yknow what? i’m in the mood to cook a full 12-course meal for myself” and other nights you’re like “tortilla chips are basically an entire meal it’s fine”

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October 03 2017

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chaoticbard:

blackberryshawty:

theryanproject:

eccentric-nae:

bumbleshark:

are you a “hold my drink” person, or do you chug it before doing somethin wild

Second one

The latter

Both

*chugs drink, tosses cup at friend* hold my cup

October 02 2017

Reblog with the most notes you've ever gotten on an original post in the tags

beckybasic:

For those who may not be aware

There was a shooting that happened around 10/11 PM PST so most of us were asleep.

The shooting was on the Las Vegas Strip by Mandalay Bay at a Music Festival.

They recognized the shooter as a 64 year old man named Stephen Paddock.

Currently the death toll is at 50+ with more than 200+ Injured.

This is officially the worst mass shooting in American History.

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